Monday, January 5, 2009

swim at your own risk, Just say Nay


I read this amazing Testimony on myspace.com/abstinenceisawesome

A few weeks ago my wonderful dear close friend Lexi Wilton showed me this testimony on the website above, I'm not sure who wrote the story but i thank the girl for what she shared, it was very encouraging and spoke LIFE,

I wanted to write about this on where i've been, but this girl did it all for me it was like reading my own testimony.
I have to share it,

here is is,


"I have the right to do anything," you say - but not everything is beneficial. "I have the right to do anything" - but I will not be mastered by anything [...] Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins people commit are outside their bodies, but those who sin sexually sin against their own bodies. Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies. 1 Corinthians 6:12 and 18-20.


I'm not going to start bashing anyone here. Nor is the Bible. I've been struggling with this stuff for years, and I know I'm not the only one.]

I was sitting at Michikewis in my car today, reading my chapters for Economics (which is a jolly good time... HA) and I saw a sign that said, "Swim at your ownrisk."

I started thinking analagously (SURPRISE). Physical contact with other people is a "Swim at your own risk" action.
It's not a sin to kiss someone. But you're swimming at your own risk. The undertow is strong, and we are small.
The Hebrew word for kiss literally means "tokindle." When you kiss someone, you're lighting (and feeding) a fire.It's not that hard to get to the point of, "It was only a kiss - How did it end up like this?" (A la The Killers).

Sex was intended to be part of a permanent relationship within the context of marriage: an expression of passion and love between two people whose desire for each other will always be exclusive and intimate.
Saving sex for marriage is not a curse; it's a gift. If you get sexually involved before you're married, you're cheating yourself and your husband or wife out of something really special and amazing. You bear the cost of your actions.

The stuff from 1 Corinthians 6 has nothing to do with God being out to get us for not being sexually pure. We have to take the consequences. We have babies, we get STDs, we're emotionally scarred.
God bought us at a price - We are SPECIAL and BEAUTIFUL and PURE toHim.

He is crazy about us.

We're not subjects He's anxious to bark orders at. As Christians, we're His kids, and He loves us more than we could ever even begin to ask Him to. He gave us the gift of our sexuality for the purpose of enjoying a special relationship with one person - it's JUST LIKE the way He wants our relationship with Him to be.
He desires an intimate, passionate, undying relationship with us.If you've ever read Song of Solomon, you know that a lot of stuff in there is pretty racy... And it's in the BIBLE? Whoaaa. That book is all about showing us God's desire for intimacy with us.
We (the church) are His bride.

The key is not to get as close to having sex as you can without having sex.

The intention is to GIVE as much of yourself as you can to the man or woman you spend the rest of your life with.
Do you really want to fool around now at the cost of your marital sexual relationship? Even if you don't go all theway, it's still going to damage you in the end.

You were given your sexuality for a purpose - a better goal than getting in the backseat of the car with someone who you're not really sure you're going to be with for the rest of your life. I don't have EVERYTHING to give to myhusband... I wish I did, but I don't. I hate knowing that I'm going to have to give him what's left over of me. He won't be the first person that I've been intimate with. I hate knowing that.

If you haven't made sexual mistakes yet, please don't sell yourself short by giving yourself up now. It's not worth it. If you have made mistakes, you probably know exactly what I'm talking about. Maybe you've done a little, maybe you've done a lot. It's not to late to start over. It never has been, and it never will. God's love is everlasting, and He's never unwilling to forgive. He can bring you to the place where you're able to forgive yourself and start over.

Seriously, the best weapon you can have in the fight for purity is accountability.

I am so blessed to have beautiful, godly, passionate women in my life (You lovely ladies know who you are) who don't give up on me and always ask how I'm doing in my purity. We've all made mistakes, but we are all standing for something more important than our mistakes - our future. Accountability is nowhere near easy, but it's so necessary, and it's a huge help.
I love, respect, and admire my ladies to infinity and beyond.
Something beautiful that brought me to tears is from the book of Jeremiah. In a lot of otherplaces in the Bible, Israel is compared to a prostitute.

In Jeremiah31, God is rejoicing over her return to Him. Look at what He says abouther.
I have loved you with an everlasting love; I have drawn you with loving kindness. I will build you up again and you will be rebuilt, O Virgin Israel. Again you will take up your tambourines and go out todance with the joyful. Jeremiah 31:3-4.

God restores whores.

I cried when I read that, because I've always had an issue with believing God could forgive me for the mistakes I make in life, let alone believing I could forgive myself.
Being reminded about His heart for me gave me a new perspectiveon purity... I am His first and foremost. He wants me to come to Him WITH ALL OF MY RUBBISH.
He never said, "Get rid of all the bad stuff you've done, become perfect, and THEN come to me for forgiveness and love." We are wretches indeed, but His heart is bigger than our blunders.
He is the one that cleans us off. We can't do it alone. When we come to Him, He's willing and able to make us new again.

I CAN STILLWEAR WHITE ON MY WEDDING DAY, because God has made me pure again. He washed away the disgusting stains I wore and gave me new, white,beautiful robes to wear, because that's who He is. That's the wholenature of salvation - He takes your fithy rags and gives you new life.
The thing is, He stays in one place. We are the ones who move far away from Him. The further we get from Him, the easier it is to cover our white robes in stains. But if we stay close to Him and make Him our focus, we're not going to be wading through garbage, holding our robes up so we can get a minimal amount of muck on our purity. We'll be close enough that we don't have to run very far to reach Him. The closer weget, the less likely it is that we'll have a reason to come running back covered in rubbish.



Save it for Marraige


- Know that God is a God who transforms, renews and washes clean everything that is not of him. I love how God restores. Don't ever be ashamed of your Testimony, your Testimony is so important, no matter if its little or Big, God will use you to speak words to a lifeless world!
it could change someone's life, someone's view on life.

1 comment:

Deb's Den said...

Thanks Bekka! Your words here are thoughtful and encouraging. You are a model to those around you of been there, done that, but I know my God is BIGGER than it all! Praise God for your testimony even if through others. God bless, Debbie <><